As humans, we tend to catch feelings or have strong emotional attachment toward someone based on petty things even before we get to know them. This attraction could be the basis for dating (for some people). For instance, there’s lady out there who admires a man that is tall, well-built and hairy. She may choose to start a relationship with this man regardless of his marital status. If he’s married and has no intension of taking a second wife, she may still linger around to satisfy her fantasies but not necessarily desire a long-term marital relationship. If that is the case, this lady is only dateable but not marriageable to this man.
Nonetheless, if there’s someone who considers deep things or tangible reasons such as having children, parenting styles, religious affiliations, habits, personal values or basically commitment toward marriage, we’ll consider them a marriageable person. Such people look beyond fantasies and present conditions.
Often times, one is unsure whether to take the relationship to the next level because some red flags are flying over our roofs. At the face of uncertainty ask yourself; Is this person the kind I can share my life with? Can I love them genuinely including their shortfalls and vulnerability? What values do they hold dear? Will I be happy to share my space and have my privacy intruded? Are they teachable and admit their wrong? Take time to answer these questions.
If you’re wondering who a marriageable person is OR looking out to assess someone, check these out.
A marriageable person will…
- support you in all aspects of your life and help you become a better person
- make your happiness a priority
- commit to the relationship as much as you are
- take criticisms and work on them
- respect and honour you
- handle conflicts reasonably
- be very sincere and truthful
- involve you in every decision-making process
- most importantly, love and fear God
We’ll be very happy to read your comments or added contributions. Stay safe!
