It is every girly-girl’s dream to fall in love at first sight, just as it happens in movies. As naïve as I was, my younger self always thought that when I saw the man I was going to marry, it’ll be love at first sight. For some unknown reasons, my chance for a love at first sight moment went right over my head. But hey, this doesn’t mean there’s no chance for others to fall in love at first sight. Mine didn’t just work out. *smirk*
Back to our topic of discussion. Some of us are approaching the possibility of marriage for the first time while others have journeyed through the nightmare of divorce or loss of a partner and are hesitantly moving toward a second commitment. In either case, the question of knowing if your supposed bride or groom is the right one for you can’t be underestimated – although it doesn’t seem like a big deal. Tradition has tasked men to take the first step (propose). For this reason, we’ll cook this write-up from a man’s perspective.
Finding your soulmate usually begins with friendship – you need to be her friend. You’ll notice the hike in phone calls. Sometimes, your conversation eats into the wee hours of the night. In the course of the friendship, you’ll grow to respect her. Then, if you previously had reasons not to like her, those reasons will begin to peel off because they’ll now seem shallow to you.
Before you say Jack, butterflies in your belly. You’ll yearn to sail deeper into the relationship. This time, you’ll cross the borders of phone calls to meet up often. Eventually, you’ll hunger for intimacy because at this point, she’s taken your breath away.
Showing symptoms of love doesn’t mean you should jump the gun. Rather, consider the following Nuggets of Wisdom listed below:
- Exercise patience and take a step at a time.
- Ensure you’re emotionally prepared for marriage (emotional intelligence is key)
- Submit your desire(lady) to God and trust Him to direct your steps in the right direction.
- Build a circle of counsellors (the most trusted people in your life) – parents, pastor, professional counsellor(s).
- Don’t overlook her red flags. They trumpet lounder after marriage.
- Pay attention to how she treats others; it communicates her interpersonal skills
- Take time to ask yourself these questions… “do I see her in my future?; “does her purpose conflict or compliment mine?”
I hope these tips guide you to finding the one and enjoy the long-awaited bliss you deserve. Have fun!
