Two things define us – elegance and acumen. When we walk into an auditorium, our apparels do the introduction. Before we announce our presence, I’m usually hasty to take the first step in. With my bright-coloured bodycon dress, dangling earrings and a fascinator has asked you to give way, I glance to the left and right, (to catch all eyes on me) I take a deep breath and grin. I wobble my butts from the north to the south, as if to say “I got to show ya’ll what mama gave me”.
Meanwhile Akos is impatient; she wants to quickly grab a seat, call the waiter’s attention and make unrealistic demands for a certain way of seating arrangements she’s not too comfortable with or alter the menu. Abena, on the other hand, wishes to step in unnoticed. She’d have asked the lights went out until she assumes her seat. She’s also the last to say “hi” or even admit to have seen anyone. As for Akua, she goes with the flow. Whether anyone notices her or not, she’ll still rock it like it is.
While Abena is thinking of why and when to take orders/initiatives, I decide whether to take it or not; but for Akua, it’s a Yes sir all day! And oh! Akos is the Boss chick, she takes no orders yet makes all the demands.
Now, can I honourably introduce the Unique 4? – I, your love, Adwoa, I’m the social butterfly, fun loving and very optimistic. I love attention too; Akos, the Boss Chick, is authoritative, principled, impatient and a natural leader. Akua the Sassy Queen? Calm, peacemaker, understanding and highly tolerant. But Abena the Night Star, is shy, quiet, emotional and takes too long to decide. Together, we make your heads roll. See ya! *wink*
Do you relate with any of these characters or know anyone who does? Or have you ever asked yourself, “why do I act the way I do?” Well, I’m here with some answers I believe would help to discover why. Hold on! TEMPERAMENTS!!! Do you know this is why the Unique 4 act differently, given the same condition?
Join us, let’s pick a stroll.
Like the Unique 4, studies show that likewise, there are four temperaments; Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic. From the story, I’m the Sanguine, Akos is Choleric, Abena is Melancholic and Akua is Phlegmatic. To decode some of these traits, you’ll have to read the story again to find out who is what. #smiles
I present to you more traits of the UNIQUE FOUR
SANGUINE
(adventurous) |
MELANCHOLIC (perfectionist) | CHOLERIC
(boss) |
PHLEGMATIC (peacemaker) |
Pleasure seeking | Withdrawn | Natural leader | Calm |
Optimistic | Pessimistic | Determined | Follower |
Center of attraction | Shy | Outspoken | People’s person |
Talker | Quiet | Authoritative | Sociable |
Carefree | Cautious | Irritable | Understanding |
Easily forgives | Holds grudges | Short-tempered | Even-tempered |
High sense of humor | Serious | Goal-oriented | Passive |
Good communicator | Analytical | Impulsive | Operative |
Energetic | Slow to take decision/initiative | Strong-willed | Very caring |
High self-esteem | Fearful | Takes control | Committed |
Contented | Demanding | Never satisfied | Appreciative |
Live in the present | Talented/gifted | Serious | Lively |
Easily gives up | Passionate/sensual | Completes tasks | Motivator |
Messy | Very organized | Principled | Adaptative |
It will interest you to know that an individual may possess two or more of these qualities but one will surely dominate. That notwithstanding, each temperament is unique in their own way. If you learn to appreciate yours as you learn about your spouse’s, your relationship will soar like an eagle and blossom like sunflowers.
Go ahead and tell us what your thoughts are.