Relationship

DO YOU KNOW YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE?

One of the top things that influence how we behave is our personality. Our surroundings, experiences, and unique ambitions all have an impact on our behavior, though.

With this infographic, we discuss the typical behaviors of persons who fit a particular personality type.

This post is not meant to be considered as gospel; rather, it is meant to encourage personal growth and a better knowledge of who you are and how you behave in romantic relationships.

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MEN’S OPINION: WHAT IF HE EARNS LESS THAN HIS WOMAN?

“I won’t lie, there are times that it bothers me that my fiancée makes more than me. I know I shouldn’t feel that way, but I can’t help it. I guess I just always had this perception that I’d be the main breadwinner because that’s the kind of family I come from. I know it’s old-fashioned, but still, to be the one making less is something I do think about. I want to be clear, though. I don’t resent her. She’s great at what she does and deserves to make more than she does. I also know that there are men who work with her in the same positions and make more. I am currently doing a postgraduate IT course and plan to turn the table around. My queen deserves a king who can take her shopping and on vacations many times in a year!” — [name withheld]

“Look: I am my girlfriend’s biggest fan. I think it’s amazing that she makes more than me, and I know that she deserves to. We have different professions, and hers come with a lot more stress than mine. I don’t care about gender. If you work hard and you’re good at your job, you deserve to be compensated fairly. I get much angrier about the thought that guys she works with make more money than she does for doing the same thing.” — [name withheld]

What’s your opinion?

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Marriage Link Consult is organizing Singles Summit ’23 on Saturday March 18th 2023, 12:00 – 4:00 PM at Accra Digital Centre, John Mahama Hall.

The objective of the event is to enlighten and motivate people in relationships who intend to take the next steps towards marriage but have been constrained by various factors. Eligible singles will be provided answers to crucial questions on their minds as they contemplate marriage.

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WOMEN’S OPINION: WHAT IF SHE EARNS MORE THAN HER MAN?

I am looking for a man as successful or more successful than I am. I don’t think anyone wants to admit it, but when you’re on the verge of a successful career, you want a man who’s a success himself. It seems elitist, but it’s true. I can’t see myself having a husband who’s a gas station attendant—or even someone with less education and professional prestige than I have… I want a man who will be a good provider for my future offspring. It’s the feeling of protection you get from someone who has more power. Women are attracted to that even if they have plenty of money to support themselves. — [name withheld]

I don’t like hearing women in high positions or from privileged backgrounds say they wouldn’t marry men beneath them. I go into a fury when I hear that. Now if you were dating an uneducated man and he wasn’t an intellectual equal, then of course you wouldn’t marry him because you wouldn’t have anything in common. But that’s different from saying you wouldn’t marry someone because they didn’t have a certain elite status or didn’t make enough money. Women who say things like that are just status-seekers… I can marry a man I earn more money than when he is great in other qualities like attractiveness, intelligence, self-management, hardworking, supportive, and faithful. You might be surprised that his support during our courtship contributed to my financial success.  I really don’t like the phrase “marrying down.” — [name withheld]

What’s your opinion?

Ladies. Gentlemen. We need to talk at the Singles Summit ‘23

Marriage Link Consult is organizing Singles Summit ’23 on Saturday March 18th 2023, 12:00 – 4:00 PM at Accra Digital Centre, John Mahama Hall.

The objective of the event is to enlighten and motivate people in relationships who intend to take the next steps towards marriage but have been constrained by various factors. Eligible singles will be provided answers to crucial questions on their minds as they contemplate marriage.

Ladies. We need to talk at the Singles Summit ‘23

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Welcome to February: The month of love and more love💕

You are most excited about the only month that’s dedicated to expressing love and everything nice to your special someone. We are too!

So, what’s the plan? Several date nights all through the month? Are you planning to propose to her? Are you planning to surprise him with a serenade? Or beautiful activities at home?

We know life is not easy for anyone. Responsibilities, stress, financial burdens, family obligations—we survived January—good heavens! All these realities can make us forget to create magic.

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SINGLES SUMMIT 2023: WHAT MEN WANT IN WOMEN

When I go to the club, I see it as a game. I hustle and charm the girl until I get her phone number. Then I take her out to dinner and try to score. If she doesn’t come through, maybe I take her out again, maybe not. It depends on how attractive she is, what I think my chances are, a lot of things. But once I make it, I’m not interested in her any more. I don’t call her again. I mean, sure, I would like to get married some day but I wouldn’t be serious about any girl I found in a place like this. I figure if I can pick her up, someone else can too, and I wouldn’t marry a woman like that. You’d always be thinking about how many guys she’s had and whether she might do it again.

When it comes to a marriage-focused relationship, looks are important to me but I have to be able to communicate with her too. My first girlfriend was a high school dropout and not attractive. It was my first sexual experience so I was mesmerized. It was like a new toy. After a year, the novelty of sex with her wore off and I couldn’t stand her. I would try to carry out conversations with her and I would get frustrated by her inability to catch up with ideas. She was a good cook, though. It went on for another year and a half so I could go on having sex. I felt I needed it. It was like a comfortable shoe. After that, I just couldn’t take it anymore so I broke it off. I was active in the dating game after that, then paused for a while until I met my present fiancée.”  — [name withheld]

Today, many men exhibit a typical double standard: they don’t think premarital sex is necessarily morally wrong for men or for women, BUT they don’t want to marry a woman who has acted as they do towards casual sex and engaged with multiple partners. Their attitude is more pragmatic than moral. If they can pick a woman up and seduce her so easily, other men can do it also and may do so in the future. This type of double standard reflects the dynamics of male investment. Men resist investing heavily—emotionally, financially, materially—when other men have invested little in order to have sex with her.

Some so-called playboys who enjoy “easy girls” internally have high standards when it comes to choosing a wife. How he found her. Where he found her. What kind of mindset she has. How she will raise the kids. What kind of future they will build together.

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SINGLES SUMMIT 2023: WHAT WOMEN WANT IN MEN

I think a lot of men divorce sex from relationships and feelings. The one thing I am looking for is a relationship with a lot of communication. Real honest talking. Most men don’t want to talk. They want to go out, and go to dinner, and have sex. I talk openly to them if they want to listen, but they seldom do. I want to be friends, but not many men want to do that. Every man that I’ve ever gone out with has just wanted to go to bed. They say right on the first date, “I think you’re attractive. I want to make love to you. Let’s just make love.” I don’t understand why sex is so important to men. So many of their actions seem to be dominated by their arousal.

I would like to go out with a man and have a really good time and have him drive me home. I could kiss him on the cheek, or he could kiss me on the cheek, and we would look at each other and say, “I really had a good time. What are you doing tomorrow?” I would love to have a man court me, bring me flowers, all those things. But it just doesn’t happen. Sex always comes up first. Many men say jokingly that you’re supposed to put out by the third date—at the latest! I think they are only half joking. I would love to have that kind of sexual attraction held in the background for a while. I love it when it’s an undercurrent—when you know it’s there, but it hasn’t become obvious yet. Then it’s a lot more fun and meaningful when you do become sexual.” — [name withheld]

Today, many women cannot understand why men apparently do not want the same things as they do in order to enjoy a loving relationship. These women want sexual intercourse to be part of a relationship that includes attention, affection, caring, verbal intimacy, and sexual fidelity.

Most men, on the other hand, appear to enjoy sex for its own sake, without these accompaniments. They also enjoy having sex with a variety of partners and expend a great deal of effort to do so. These male desires are so foreign to some women that they are incomprehensible. Some other women feel they have been victims of these male desires.

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Why do I act the way I do?

Two things define us – elegance and acumen. When we walk into an auditorium, our apparels do the introduction. Before we announce our presence, I’m usually hasty to take the first step in. With my bright-coloured bodycon dress, dangling earrings and a fascinator has asked you to give way, I glance to the left and right, (to catch all eyes on me) I take a deep breath and grin. I wobble my butts from the north to the south, as if to say “I got to show ya’ll what mama gave me”.

Meanwhile Akos is impatient; she wants to quickly grab a seat, call the waiter’s attention and make unrealistic demands for a certain way of seating arrangements she’s not too comfortable with or alter the menu. Abena, on the other hand, wishes to step in unnoticed. She’d have asked the lights went out until she assumes her seat. She’s also the last to say “hi” or even admit to have seen anyone. As for Akua, she goes with the flow. Whether anyone notices her or not, she’ll still rock it like it is.

While Abena is thinking of why and when to take orders/initiatives, I decide whether to take it or not; but for Akua, it’s a Yes sir all day!  And oh! Akos is the Boss chick, she takes no orders yet makes all the demands.

Now, can I honourably introduce the Unique 4? – I, your love, Adwoa, I’m the social butterfly, fun loving and very optimistic. I love attention too; Akos, the Boss Chick, is authoritative, principled, impatient and a natural leader. Akua the Sassy Queen? Calm, peacemaker, understanding and highly tolerant. But Abena the Night Star, is shy, quiet, emotional and takes too long to decide. Together, we make your heads roll. See ya! *wink*

Do you relate with any of these characters or know anyone who does? Or have you ever asked yourself, “why do I act the way I do?” Well, I’m here with some answers I believe would help to discover why. Hold on! TEMPERAMENTS!!! Do you know this is why the Unique 4 act differently, given the same condition?

Join us, let’s pick a stroll.

Like the Unique 4, studies show that likewise, there are four temperaments; Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic. From the story, I’m the Sanguine, Akos is Choleric, Abena is Melancholic and Akua is Phlegmatic. To decode some of these traits, you’ll have to read the story again to find out who is what. #smiles

I present to you more traits of the UNIQUE FOUR

It will interest you to know that an individual may possess two or more of these qualities but one will surely dominate. That notwithstanding, each temperament is unique in their own way. If you learn to appreciate yours as you learn about your spouse’s, your relationship will soar like an eagle and blossom like sunflowers.

Go ahead and tell us what your thoughts are.

Do I know my partner’s love language?

Do you know that you could be loving your partner the wrong way? Probably you haven’t thought of this yet. Or perhaps, your partner has given you some clues but you’re confused about how to put it to work. Before you decide to break it off because you think you two don’t make a perfect duo, take a deep breath and soak-in this piece slowly. You’ll find answers to your questions right here, fingers crossed. Feel free to leave a comment, like and share. Happy reading!!

Before we delve into it, permit me to ask; if you only understand English and Twi, would you want to be friends with a person who only understands and speaks French? I bet your answer is a BIG NO!! You’re right by asking yourself this very question, “How would we communicate?”.  On this note, I believe you do agree that languages help us communicate better. And hardly will someone befriend a person you don’t speak a common language with.

This same logic applies in the love relationships we get into. Most times, we love others the way we want them to love us, rather than the way they want to be loved. This ends up in a miscommunication and mismatch where we begin to feel we aren’t compatible with our partner.

It’s human nature to find difficulty in seeing things from another person’s perspective. This is because we conceptualize things based on our own experiences. For instance, if you like perfumes a lot, whenever you decide to buy your friend a present, you might consider buying him/her a perfume or something scented, if not necessarily a perfume. If you like to look good, you’ll try to get him/her something you think would make him/her look good as well. True?

It’s not advisable to push your perspective on your partner; don’t even think of it! For all you know, it could be an outright torture to them although it may seem perfectly cool or fun to you. This is why it’s necessary to know your partner’s Love Language. Yea, you read it right!

According to Gary Chapman, there are five different ways of expressing and receiving love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. These are what he terms the five love languages. Each of us has a primary love language — one that speaks most deeply to us emotionally. It is similar to spoken language.

People get frustrated when their spouse don’t respond positively to their expression of love. One truth in marriage is that, couples may be extremely similar but never alike. If this isn’t understood the love shared in marriage can diminish. Again, good intentions alone aren’t enough. We must also learn how to meet our spouse’s emotional need for love.

How can we do this?

• It is a must to learn how to express love in a language your mate will understand
• Observe their behaviour and how they typically express love and appreciation to others. This may include the need to touch and hug people, frequently give words of affirmation, always giving gifts, or enjoy having a two-hour lunch with a friend.
• Next, record your spouse’s complaints; they will reveal your spouses’ love language. If he says, “We don’t spend time together anymore,” he is telling you that his love language is quality time. If she says, “I don’t think you would ever touch me if I don’t initiate it,” she’s revealing that physical touch is her love language. You’ll find that the complaint “I don’t know why you can’t help me around the house” reveals that acts of service is your spouse’s love language.
• Pay attention to your spouses’ inquiries/comments. If she asks you, “do you like my dress” or what do you think about my new look” she’s asking for words of affirmation. If he comments when you leave on a trip, “Be sure to bring me a surprise,” he is telling you his love language is receiving gifts
• If you grew up in a home where love isn’t expressed in a particular way then it becomes difficult. We must consciously put in efforts to master these love languages to satisfy our spouses’ emotional needs.

Was this helpful? Kindly let me know in the comments section of this blog.

Much love. Stay safe.

Am I a dateable person or a marriageable person?

As humans, we tend to catch feelings or have strong emotional attachment toward someone based on petty things even before we get to know them. This attraction could be the basis for dating (for some people). For instance, there’s lady out there who admires a man that is tall, well-built and hairy. She may choose to start a relationship with this man regardless of his marital status. If he’s married and has no intension of taking a second wife, she may still linger around to satisfy her fantasies but not necessarily desire a long-term marital relationship. If that is the case, this lady is only dateable but not marriageable to this man.

 Nonetheless, if there’s someone who considers deep things or tangible reasons such as having children, parenting styles, religious affiliations, habits, personal values or basically commitment toward marriage, we’ll consider them a marriageable person. Such people look beyond fantasies and present conditions.

Often times, one is unsure whether to take the relationship to the next level because some red flags are flying over our roofs. At the face of uncertainty ask yourself; Is this person the kind I can share my life with? Can I love them genuinely including their shortfalls and vulnerability? What values do they hold dear? Will I be happy to share my space and have my privacy intruded? Are they teachable and admit their wrong? Take time to answer these questions.

If you’re wondering who a marriageable person is OR looking out to assess someone, check these out.

A marriageable person will…

• support you in all aspects of your life and help you become a better person
• make your happiness a priority
• commit to the relationship as much as you are
• take criticisms and work on them
• respect and honour you
• handle conflicts reasonably
• be very sincere and truthful
• involve you in every decision-making process
• most importantly, love and fear God

We’ll be very happy to read your comments or added contributions. Stay safe!

The story would have been different if…

Nana’s dream wedding was one of those posh Instagram weddings which became the talk of town. She was the first amongst the popular three musketeers, which includes myself and Grace, to be taken off the market. I bet she raised the bar as high as a mountain you would hardly reach. Her husband, Philip, is one handsome young man who was born with a silver spoon in his mouth so money ain’t a problem.

As we danced and cheered the couple on during their first dance at the reception, I was thankful for her in-laws who adored and treated her well. Behind closed doors, I prayed to be blessed with such a man.

The first time I heard from Nana was in a video call during her honeymoon. She looked good, but same couldn’t be said about her tone – edgy, as though something or someone was pursuing her so the call ended abruptly.  I sensed all wasn’t well. When I inquired, she responded to my WhatsApp text assuring me that she was perfectly fine.

Apparently, my best friend was going through a lot but she wouldn’t open up to anyone for fear of ridicule. That was so typical of her, I thought. You’d have to force the truth out of her otherwise, she’ll suffer in silence.

On a good day, Philip was calm but he usually addressed issues with aggression if he missed a dose so staying with him was rather unbearable. To cut a long story short, her hubby didn’t disclose his medical history to her neither did her in-laws for once, talk about his mental health issues. This informed my friend to take an irrevocable decision to disintegrate the marriage. This she did by leaving to live rather than stay and suffer the fate of other women who met their untimely death because they hoped for a change that never happened.

As a client of M-Link, by the time you’re matched, background checks would have been done to fish out all these loopholes. In addition, we’d have had our seasoned counsellors address these issues in the best possible ways to resolve and save the marriage because here at M-Link, we believe divorce isn’t the last option. The story would have been different if they allowed M-Link to take them through the journey.

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